Ten practical ideas to build a successful marriage
by Patrick Morley Devotions 
Adapted For Couples (Zondervan) 
Remember how your heart beat when you first learned that she loved your partner? What happened to those feelings? A good marriage should be like good music - passionate, harmonious colors. But did you know that today nearly 40% of Christian marriages end in divorce? What can we do about it?
All we got married for the same reasons. We dream of building a life together, a meteoric success in our career and pampered children, to spend the rest of our lives with the person who made us feel in the clouds! However, those dreams are fading under the weight of thousands of daily pressures. In this article I would like to share with you the ten most practical ideas I know to help grow that loving feeling - to make beautiful music with your partner.
If you can read this out loud with your partner. Parenthetically, if you are single, is engaged or divorced, you can still greatly benefit from reading these ten ideas. So, without further round ... TEN IDEAS
Listen to each other: Communication always appears as the number one problem in marriage surveys. The biggest weakness in communication with our partners is the problem of responding too quickly. We place great value on our partners when we listen deeply to each other without giving an answer too quickly criticizing or giving advice (two things they fear all). Listening lubricates marriage and keeps down the friction.
spend time alone together: The issue is the time - who gets it? The way we spend our time reveals what is really important to us. Successful couples spend time together. Read the Bible together. Develop shared interests, such as bowling, reading, walking or seeing plays. Touch your
: Successful couples touch. Hug, squeeze, are mimes, caress, they hold hands, they surround themselves with arms and sit together enough to touch when they are watching TV. Nonsexual touch leads to true intimacy. Enjoy sex, frequently.
Aliéntense each other with words: The breath is the food of the heart, and every heart is a hungry heart. Our partner has an emotional bank account in which we make deposits and withdrawals, as when we are in a bad mood when you arrive home from work or when we encourage our spouse when dropped. We all need to be raised when we are listless, but the most successful couples are a step closer. Successful couples create a positive environment. It stated verbally to each other at every opportunity. Try to catch the other when doing things "right." Transmitting the praise that others have made of your partner. Never miss an opportunity to express his appreciation: "I love the way you fix your hair," "That was a big dinner", "Thanks for being a good provider." Accept one
unconditionally: A man under pressure: "The reason I love my dog \u200b\u200bis because he loves me no matter what to do. "The unconditional love and acceptance are a crucial foundation in successful marriages. The most intense need of every man and woman is to be in a relationship with someone who really cares for him or her. The happy couples not feel they have to pretend to be loved. Do not feel they will be rejected if they do not comply with a set of rules. Intimacy means "I know who you are at the deepest level, and I accept." accepted Jesus, "as I am ", and good partners accept each other as they are too.
Commit to each other: Successful couples are committed to resolving the problems. The word" divorce "is not permitted or pronounce, no matter how upset or angry one happens to be. They have an agreement on how to manage conflict. Have discussed issues of how "fair fight" peacefully. Try to put aside the minor issues. Are actively committed to wanting the best for your partner, to help her grow as a person. Be sure to pray "for" and "with" each - you may be the only person in the whole world is praying regularly for your partner.
Take care of your financial future together: money problems creates more tension in the marriage than any external threat. The question is: Is it OK to splurge in a lifestyle today that its partner will be forced to leave when you have game? Successful couples have resolved to live within your means. They do not live so highly today do forecasts for retirement or premature death. Do not get into debt. They know that is true Money Principle Morley: "Debt is dumb."
Laugh together: The antidote for boredom in marriage is the jovial mood. If your partner tells a joke, laugh! (Even though he is not Bob Hope and she is not Carol Burnett). If neither of you is funny, sure to watch funny movies and fun to be with friends. Have
each is the maximum priority of the other: When I called three friends asking them to pray for a difficult challenge facing the next day. A week later, I ended up calling each of them to let them know how I had gone. I'm sure I have shown the same indifference to my friends. The only person you can count on to always support him is his partner. The rule above all rules for a successful marriage is: "After God, but before all others, have each respective priority whatsoever. Do not let anyone - not even their children, but especially their parents - come between you. " Sea
each other's best friend: Oswald Chambers said: "The last signal intimacy is to share our secret joys. "Happy couples are engaged to spend time together as friends. is shared secrets with each other. They enjoy each other's company. They realize that they are the only ones in this" together ". All others are on their own to some extent, even the children. But couples are "one flesh".
SOME SUGGESTIONS ...
To discuss: Answer each one: Which of these ten ways have you "invested" in their partner? What would you like better?
To apply: place a check mark beside each one of the ways in which you want to improve really. What could do this week in every area in which you want to improve? Ask your partner what she could do to show improvement in each of these areas. Write several of these ideas in the margins of this article and refer to this week as a reminder. PRAYER
Oren both Lord God, thank you for my partner. I pray that we have a happy and successful marriage every day. Lord, I confess I need to work in the following areas (name them). Give me the desire and power to be the kind of couple who know you and my wife / husband would like. Help me be a blessing. Amen. CONCLUSION
Marriage represents the maximum potential of all human relationships. The Bible says "man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Go! In other words, must somehow be a "union" mystique in which we mysteriously become "one flesh" before God. No other human relationship can approach this - none.
When the party finished and crepe paper is falling and the party hats are scattered on the floor, the children are grown and gone, and all his friends have retired or moved, there will be only two rocking side to side . Be sure to "invest" into each other today to fully enjoy these special times.
So, what idea was better for you? Which would you like to "invest" in the coming days? 
So, what idea was better for you? Which would you like to "invest" in the coming days? Patrick Morley is a business leader, author and speaker, has been used worldwide to help men and leaders think more deeply about their lives, to be reconciled with Christ and equip them to have a greater impact on the world .
Translation: Alejandro Field
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