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The family is the foundation of society, is the core which is the formation of the personality of each of its members, is the pillar on which is based on psychological development social and physical well-being humano.Es the seat of emotional legacy of every human being, and ideally should supply its members a sense of security and emotional stability, nurtured in an environment of acceptance, security and amor.El family system consists by a structure (the couple as spouses and parents, and children, which in turn are brothers and sisters, it is noteworthy that this organization can vary from one family to another), and interactions among its members. Of these two aspects of the family, came from the system functions to meet. Functionality
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Today is very common to hear about "dysfunctional families", but what does this mean? A "dysfunctional" family is the father figures whose grandparents, aunts or brothers? Will the families where only one parent present? Or maybe you are the families where children are adopted? Or where there are no children? Actually the functionality has to do precisely with the functions it performs or not the family; between them, the teaching of values, personality development and proper growth of its members, not the shape or structure of the system itself.
From this it follows that, regardless of family structure and composition, a family may be functional or dysfunctional.
In functional families love among its members is shown without reservations, its own and where each member takes responsibility for his actions.
Today we can see different types of family structures: The families are very diverse, we do not talk only of the traditional family, mother, father and children. The concept of family is extended to, family extended, blended families, grandparents raising grandchildren, siblings raising siblings, mothers raising children, and parents raising children.
The "blended families, or rebuilt," ie starting from remarriage, and therefore integrate the children of each parent, face special conditions in relation to the conventional model of biological family, largely manifested in a negative way and this is not by nature but by mishandling of events. It is therefore vital that parents foster healthy relationships between all parties involved, bearing in mind primarily the welfare of children.
The family rearrangement, a process that should give natural and unforced.
If you are the new family member, should be aware that failed to replace or exclude the father, came to enrich the family with another form of love, authority and harmony. Ü
not allowed to talk bad in front of her children from her ex-partner. This is going to hurt their children, and will not help in the coupling process. Ü
His love is unconditional, regardless of the conduct, actions, and personalities. Ü
is important to understand that each child is unique, special and different. So, let live their process at their own pace. Ü
Boundaries are a sign of love and security, which must be met, but must be accompanied by dialogue, consideration, love and respect. Remember
stepmother or stepfather is a partner, not the new dad. Which is given the title of dad or mom is a prerogative only of children, can not be imposed.
When he or she is not:
ü There are various circumstances in life that makes one of the spouses are away from home, either by the death of one, by default or by different circumstances. On many occasions, this absence occurs unexpectedly, affecting an adverse effect on family dynamics. Generally those who remain at home try to assume roles and responsibilities of the absent, this is an effort wrong than just pain and frustration can build as this absence can not be replaced. By contrast, the parent who stays at home should strive to make the best possible way what belongs, and let your former spouse must maintain a proper relationship with their children. Even more inconvenient is to assign roles to their children's absent parent.
ü It is very important that when he or she is no longer, restructuring family dynamics from the acceptance of reality, adaptation to new circumstances and the design of a new life project with the children.
ü You should lead the reconstruction of family ties enabling the receipt of good memories, the momentum of healthy relationships, respect between each of the members, even that is outside the home, which will remain important and indispensable in the lives of children.
Families without children:
motherhood and fatherhood is a choice. Today couples decide whether to have children or not. Previously, couples were assigned the role that, once married "had to have children," was seen as part of wedlock childbearing. And there was talk that family was the partner and children. However, a couple without children, is also a complete family.
marriages make the decision to be parents or not, is no longer assigned, but chosen. The childless couple must resist social pressure to have them by tradition, and should see themselves as a complete family.
Grandparents raising grandchildren:
Grandparents have a special place in the lives of their grandchildren. Most grandparents occupy a special place in the emotional plane. Grandparents in addition to caring selflessly for their grandchildren when parents are busy with work or absent for other reasons, delivered an extra dose of love that falls well in the lives of their grandchildren.
There is a special relationship between these two generations, with features that often occur not between parents and children.
For example, something that strengthens this bond is that many grandparents and the years have come at highly competitive workplace. This allows them to be more calm and less stress of daily living.
The fact that the relationship grandchildren - grandparents in a tension that often occur between parents and their children on matters of discipline and education, this link makes it more flexible, but mutual respect. Ü
Grandparents have no duty to discipline as this function rests with the parents. Moreover, the grandparents have no fear of being the main actors in training, can deliver to their grandchildren, those things that perhaps could not or were able to give their sons, daughters. Ü
This does not mean that grandparents do not play the role of educators, since although it is their obligation to their grandchildren often transmit knowledge.
ü It is important that parents and grandparents to communicate constantly with respect to discipline, it is crucial that parents do not disallow or discredit the standards they have set. Ü
Grandparents feel bad using some kind of rules, it is recommended to have an open conversation with parents to reach agreements. A healthy position can be assumed, is to tell their grandchildren, "that you're doing you allow it here in our house, but when you're in yours, you must do indicate that your parents. "
Some recommendations for building strong families:
Communicate the relationship and love in your family are strong and are not at stake.
• Every family is different. What is not negotiable is the love and respect.
· Generate the space to express disagreement.
• If you lead your home without a spouse, remember that you must assume the role of the absent. Just
• that do the best.
• When something bothers you, refer to the conduct and not the person
• Accept the differences, a family's wealth lies in the ability to recognize each other. · Meet the promises they make.
• Listen before speaking. · Business, is not inflexible and pledge to recognize when to yield. • Speak well of their own, in their presence and in his absence.
· Watch the words and tone of his voice.
· The relationships need time. · Watch the words and tone of his voice.
· Express affection. · Spread individual time with each of the members of his family.
· Have spaces together, celebrations, outings, etc.. · Detect enemies family times, the individualism, lack of planning, selfishness, etc.
· Have spaces together, celebrations, outings, etc.. · Detect enemies family times, the individualism, lack of planning, selfishness, etc.
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