We
all accustomed to think in terms Personal: I, me, me. All plan our lives around ourselves. All are naturally egocentric. But in marriage, that has to change. Suddenly, I'm not
am us . How strange. And how difficult!
Yesterday, if I wanted, went to play baseball and I leaned to read a book. Yesterday, if I wanted, changed jobs or did not shave. Yesterday, as I please, buy a Pepsi or I spent all day with my friends. Yesterday, according to my emotions, played hymns on the recorder or went alone to the mountain. Yesterday. But I'm not am us . What rare. And how difficult!
I think this is the main setting. If we succeed, the other settings are much less complicated. My mindset has to change what I want what she wants. The mentality has to change her what she wants what I want. And together we must consider what is good and beneficial to us both.
The Bible says unequivocally that God takes two and unites them in one. This means that I no longer live for my sake but for our well. It means that my life and development are inextricably entangled with the lives of my wife (called Ruby). Our lives are shared between us. Must exist between us a level of communication that does not exist in any relationship we have with any other person. All this impacts on our lives in ways extremely practical. I no longer play baseball or chess as often as before. I do not spend long hours with my friends or my books. I do not go to pace just as often as before. Why do not I like these things anymore? Of course not! The thing is now of secondary importance to my relationship with Ruby. I still entertain with a game or with my friends or alone, but less than before. Same with Ruby, she has me put me and our relationship in a similar position.
What about books and the recorder? The same principle applies. There are times when I want to read but Ruby needs someone to talk to or someone to help hang clothes. Then do not read, that I can do it another time. Occasionally I fancy listening to music on the recorder. But what will I do if Ruby wants to hear a message or wants me to buy a kilo of flour or no longer wants to silence in that time? For the love of it and interest in us
not listen to music at that time.
"Where are you going?" "What are you thinking?" "Where are you from?" "Why did you do this?" "Who talks?" "What did you do today?" "When are you coming back?" "What are you doing today?" "What did he say so?"
I guess they were questions like this that prompted this question from an older friend: Why are wives so intrusive in the affairs of their husbands? "Frankly, the questions at the beginning of this paragraph shall not be necessary. The spouses should share their lives with each other. Our plans, our thoughts, our experiences are to be entrusted with our spouses. If Ruby has to make me these questions or if I have to ram them to it, then we have failed to function as us. The individual who believes that his wife will meddle in their business still does not understand that I no longer
. Since now one, both are entitled to everything the other. An adjustment of this magnitude requires both a change of perspective as a life-changing. It is not easy but possible. I suggest three things that greatly help in this:
1) support and help of God 2) a well-informed engagement 3) love.
Any marriage can be happy, successful and full of us . Even the pagan marriage. But the abundance marriage in all its aspects is the blessing of only those spouses who know God. To navigate this setting us (and any other adjustment), seeks the support and help of God. He can make fundamental changes in the heart to change our
I
to us. He specializes in changing views and purposes of life.
If you still are not you married, then there is something you can do before marriage. Give your dating a good foundation and solid. The adjustment to their marriage
us is natural to those who have done us concept in dating. Many couples limit their marriages even before marriage. That sounds weird, right? Is more or less this way. They fall in love in a physical sense. Their attraction is physical. Nothing known physically. Known little or nothing in the spiritual aspect. They marry. Pun! A few weeks (or days, perhaps) find that married a stranger. The adjustments are difficult if not impossible. Love. It may sound strange that you mention it in connection settings. You know many are married without knowing the love? It's true! Everyone is so busy with I can not worry about the other person. Any relationship between them based on what they can achieve personally. Even what they do for the other is for the purpose of getting something for themselves. Genuine love is only interested in the well to the other without any interest in personal gain or reward. Meditate on these passages that paint a landscape of genuine love.
"Many waters can not quench love, neither can floods drown it" (Song 8.7).
"No one has greater love than this, that he lay down his life for his friends" (John 15.13).
"Let love be without dissimulation" (Romans 12.9).
"Love does no harm to others, so that law enforcement is love (Romans 13.10).
"Love is patient and kind, love does not envy, love does not boast, it is not proud It is not rude, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails " (1 Corinthians 13.4-8).
" all your things be done with love " (1 Corinthians 16.14).
" ... By love serve one another " (Galatians 5.13).
" With all humility and gentleness, with patience forbearing one another in love " (Ephesians 4.2).
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love" (1 John 4.8).
Sex
After these verses about true love and its accompanying emphasis us, it is very well addressed in brief sexual adjustment. This adjustment is neither natural nor light nor easy as most think. The decadent world culture has filled us with information and sexual comments, but still, that marital adjustment is a delicate thing that requires a lot of love and us. [To find more detailed help on this, consult any evangelical bookstore or
Lamp & Light
.]
Love and the resulting consideration should mark our intercourse with our spouses. Each spouse will be devoted to giving the other pleasure and sexual satisfaction that craves and needs. Not care as much about their own needs and their own desires. The husband's love must be shown through patience. The sexual fire your wife is slower and longer than yours. Although you may be burning in a few minutes, it takes more time. The normal inclination of the husband is getting his own sexual satisfaction as soon as possible. Do not want to wait until his wife is ready. But your love and patience will give you personal control to wait and help your wife get the same level of sexual arousal. Use words and caresses sweet and tender love and wise at this time of waiting and preparation. The husband's love must also be shown through respect and courtesy. If she is troubled by a problem, more of your interest, help her find peace settlement or to satisfy your own sexual desires of the moment. If she is extremely tired and slightly sick, not even insinuate your sexual needs, take care for her welfare. If she does not feel like more sex, do not behave like a sexual monster that must be satisfied or not will in a good mood. Or if she by word or deed express your sexual desires, do everything in your power to satisfy, even if you're tired or not you win or you're worried about something.
wife's love is displayed in a compassionate and understanding. Remember that your husband's sexual passion turns quickly and easily. Recognizes that in this world there are all kinds of sexual solicitation involving more strongly to men than to women. Do not condemn him for it but is gladly available to satisfy. Di Solomon's wife, "I am my beloved's and his desire is toward me"
(Song 7.10). This means there will be many occasions when they participated in sexual relations without having to staff. But you will love for your husband. And do it willingly, not you used for your husband ... you need for it. Although you do not burn in sexual passion at that time, strive to be an active loving, imaginative and exciting for him. In Song of Solomon 7.12, the wife invites her husband with a very attractive and romantic words: "get up early to the vineyards, see if the vines sprout if they are in bloom, if the pomegranates have blossomed; there I will give my love .
Tastes She prefers flour tortillas; him corn. He likes the blanquillos crashed, she would fall more scrambled. She is one of those people who love going to visit, he is of those who are happier staying at home. He is accustomed to going to bed early, she never went to bed before eleven. She likes tea, he loves coffee. He wants sex with the lamp lit, and she wants all dark. These illustrations are few and simple but good idea to give you what I mean, you can add your own tastes that are different or opposite to those of your spouse. The two used to sleep on the left side of the bed. Both always sat in a rocking chair, but now only have one. He always carried a tape recorder to work and she always had a touching while doing business at home, but do not have two recorders. In their families, they were the only ones who ate when they ate chicken liver. No doubt, you and your spouse have discovered things of this nature: they taste the same but only one can enjoy them at once.
There is a very common and easy way to solve these little problems. Since the husband is the head of household, he will insist on corn tortillas, fried eggs and coffee ... and he will play chicken livers. He will say he does not want home visits and that he will go to bed very early to occupy the left side of the bed. And of course the sex will happen with the light on. The rocking chair and the recorder will be for their exclusive use.
I challenge you to consider another solution. A biblical solution. It is an easy solution, therefore, is not common. How do you impact the following verses?
"... You shall love your neighbor as yourself"
(Matthew 22:39).
"Love one another with brotherly love, in honor preferring one another" (Romans 12:10).
"... By love serve one another" (Galatians 5:13).
"... Be kind to one another" (Ephesians 4:2).
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself" (Philippians 2:3).
"By this we know love, because He laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren" (1 John 3:16).
mutual consideration. Preference to the spouse. Sacrifice of personal desires. That is the biblical solution. That is the solution that will bring peace, harmony, satisfaction and joy to all marriage and family.
In many areas, they can simply take turns. In sexual matters, it is important for the husband to his wife preferred. As for which side of bed each use ... maybe about who renounce their desires first or draw lots. However, once these things are resolved in a general way, then comes the time for surprises! For example, the next it's up to his liver. When she gets up and turns his back to bring tea, he quickly puts the liver in the course of it. Another example? In the darkness of the room there caresses and kisses in quantity when she escapes the embrace of him and suddenly stood up, light the lamp. What I mean is that, after establishing certain patterns of life and behavior, there are still plenty of opportunities to show love, respect and choice. May God inspire your imagination and creativity!
Habits
How do you push the toothpaste tube? What do you do the laundry at the end of the day? How many spoons you use in each food? "Chewing food with your mouth open or closed? Where you put your towel after a bath? How do you blow your nose? How forgetful are you? How soon do you answer the questions you do your spouse? What do you do with your hands while talking? To interrupt who is speaking? How do you sneeze? Do you keep the things when they are finished? Do you give thanks always where it belongs? Remember to say "please"? What time did you wake up in the morning?
all have habits and customs which we believe are very normal. And we all have habits and customs of which we are not aware, as we create an automatic and subconscious. Some habits are good, some bad, most are harmless in itself. Among all these things have some habits that may cause conflict with spouse or dislike him seem unnecessary or can not understand how we can do such things. How we react to all this affects our matrimonial bliss.
a nasty habit may soon become very annoying. The situation can reach the level that you can not stand being in the presence of your spouse. It is important to find the solution to this dilemma as soon as possible and begin to react badly. I present two steps to take.
First, recognize that your business is changing and improving your spouse. You are responsible for yourself. Remember that you also have habits and customs that may fall ill to your spouse. So, when you observe something about him that you do not like, Investigate yourself to see if perhaps there is something in you that you can fall ill with it. And force yourself to change yourself. Ah, do you notice anything when you investigated? Well, ask your spouse, "Honey, do I have a habit that annoyed you Tell me, please, and try to change." (Do not get angry or feel or make excuses when you say something!) If you take this route, you may not have to take the second step. Why? Because it is almost natural that you will do after that question, she'll do the same and then have the opportunity to tell you what is so annoying. But be careful to say things in a manner that is not accusatory.
The second step is very delicate and must be taken only if your spouse asks you if something in it that bothers you. Ask God to give them an opportunity to speak frankly. Also ask for wisdom to say things calmly meekly. And then waits for the opportune moment to say, "You know something, dear?" It annoys me so much when you leave towels lying in a corner. I know you are in a hurry and that is my business take care of such things. But I would be so helpful if you could put your towel on the back of this chair. It will dry quickly and not get dirty and I I can find them more easily. "refuses to use words like
never
and always . Moderation will bring better results than the hype. do you also remember that this kind of openness is not for any time. If you are tired or moody, do not tell. If you have a disagreement and there is tension between you, do not tell. If you just complain about something, do not tell. If you have visitors or if children are present, no tell him. Better wait ... until they are alone ... until there is peace among you ... until they are in a good mood.
If these two steps are the problem, then you have to ask the Lord patience to overcome your impatience. Learn how to support that habit with all the love you have for your spouse. And stop focusing on it because it's not worth getting angry about such things. With the help of the Lord, enjoy life, and that nasty habits in your spouse does not remove you peace and contentment.
Conquest is finished "While we are still bride, Joseph always wanted to have his arms around my shoulders or my waist. Since we got married ... I do not embrace. At that time, we talked more, and now almost nothing. I liked most about our relationship when we were dating all. "
Are you saying that sound familiar? is a common problem and normal. The title of this section gives the sum of the explanation. When there is no fear of losing the object of our affection, our relationship with that person can lose its luster. Before you were afraid to leave your girlfriend, so you will strive to behave in the best possible way. But now it's your wife, your good behavior flew. Before were afraid that your boyfriend lose his interest in you in favor of another girl, so I always show your best. But now it's your husband, these things decreased in importance.
Find a healthy balance in this. You have to admit that dating is not a time of normal relations ... each individual tries to show only what is good in itself. After the wedding, life becomes more normal and routine ... and then it is impossible to hide the negatives. You also have to recognize that love, affection and romance of courtship only mark the beginning and should be improved after the wedding and the advancing years.
Ernesto and Mireya boyfriend a year. During this period, he wore a rose every Saturday. On one occasion when she left drop a pot in the foot, Ernesto laughed and said no big deal. Ernesto loved to go out with Mireya. When Ernesto came to visit, Mireya always offered coffee or fresh water. For he had not asked you that she was not willing to comply. And once when he accidentally spotted her favorite dress, she told him to forget the matter. Both were trying to please the other.
now have two years of marriage. About 23 months ago Ernesto brought the final rose to Mireya. And there are few times you walk together, even to attend church services. Yesterday when she accidentally touched his hand with the hot pan, it exploded with anger and abusive words and accusatory. When Ernesto comes home from work, Mireya does not come out to meet him. And can not think of having him ready coffee. If he asks a favor, she reacts by accusing him of being lazy and bossy. And yet she does not forget to leave a fortnight ago he broke his favorite vase. They look nice to each other only when it suits them personally.
WHATEVER HAPPENED? The conquest is over.
And there will be no solution? Sure. It's time you return to
and
us. It's time to forget I . It's time to recognize that love, romance and respect is not for the exclusive enjoyment of singles. It is time to realize that the challenge to retain the love, esteem and love of spouse requires more effort than the task of earning a spouse first. It requires diligence and a lot of work to burn a large fire, but once that is burning, have you finished work? NO! Now it takes a lot more effort to keep the fire, if not turn off. Likewise in marriage.
Ernesto and Mireya can leave your campfire is completely off. Or they can recognize the danger they face and begin their courtship back and never let it end.
"How I can get my spouse today?" Every married person has to ask this question. If you face every day with that mentality, you'll find plenty of opportunities to be a blessing, encouragement and joy to that person you married. And also enjoy the same for you.
Common Problems
The previous section deals with settings that are typically the task of every newly married couple. We saw the settings wrong or not facts lead to serious problems. In this section we change the title but to the truth, we continue talking about adjustments that each individual has to do if you want to make success in your marriage and personal life.
Leaving Father and Mother
("Where's my mom!") This is one of the primary instructions for each individual, married or ready to marry. The Bible emphasizes the importance, mentioned four times:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24; see also Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:7 and Ephesians 5:3).
God What does it mean for this statement? No human can claim to know the answer in its entirety, but here I suggest that God describes the beginning of a new relationship between children and parents. This relationship is summed with a few words - not depend ncia, separation, leave. Focus on four aspects.
physically leave. The newlyweds established their own home in your own home or room. Live apart from their parents. The geographic distance between the couple and their parents is not very critical. The important thing is living apart.
Economic Independence.
The new spouse becomes the sole breadwinner for his wife. Parents no longer are forced to meet for economic and material needs of the couple. In some cases, possibly unintentionally, parents get to use money and material things to influence and control their children and married. The newly married couple should try to prevent this problem from occurring. The best way is to leave.
emotional separation. Both husband and wife must understand that marriage is more important than the emotional ties that bind them to their parents. If Marriage of you made with the approval and support from their parents, this new relationship becomes less difficult.
When there are conflicts in your marriage, do not run home to complain to your mom! I assure you that if your spouse finds out your "crying" with it, your marriage problems will only increase. However, this does not mean emotional leave now will not miss your parents and you'll forget them. You and your spouse must live his own life but have yet to enjoy the friendship and advice of their parents. For this is good to visit them regularly, together or individually. Let
Public.
Leaving the parental home should be an act witnessed by the community and authorities. The men and women publicly take votes of fidelity and loyalty.
promise being himself faithful to each other throughout their lives. The couple
to undertake a task of a lifetime and thus initiate and maintain the new family. If one or both fail to obey God's command to leave father and mother, find a great source of problems, misunderstandings, sadness and misery. Perhaps this warning will come too late. Your in-laws control your husband because you depend on them in an economical manner. This morning you told your wife not to clean the house as well as it does your mom.
Yesterday you told your husband that he is not regarded as hardworking and your dad.
Your husband is passed nap time sleeping on a cot in the courtyard of his parents.
Your wife runs crying to your mom when you and she has disagreements.
Yesterday you had a disagreement with your mother and your husband supported his mother.
You spend most of your days at home with your mom and you're not home when your husband arrives from work.
no doubt that the neglect of you and your spouse in these areas has brought many disagreements, emotional stress and unhappiness. Now what to do?
Recognize that have faithfully obeyed God's command to leave father and mother.
Confess your mistakes to each other, asking for forgiveness. Explain
their parents who will be striving to do things in a more biblical. Ask them your support in this. Let
their parents in the ways detailed in this section. Difficult In-Laws 're male. Your father criticizes you because you provide your wife enough material things. Your mother will look bad because he did not take her daughter to visit it every week. you female. Your mother does not approve of how you care for your home. Your father thinks you waste money your husband earns barely.
Talk (quietly and without charge) with your spouse about what they tell their parents. Find out if your spouse thinks like them. As you are guilty in these or similar things, acknowledge your faults to your spouse and take the necessary steps to change.
also have another task. Your parents are laws of your spouse and that means you have to speak with your parents if they cause problems.
in a respectful, considerate and loving, rinse your parents that your home is not their responsibility but yours. Thank them for their interest in your welfare and happiness but show them that attacking your spouse steals your stuff. Ask them to please stop taking the counter with your spouse. It is possible that one or both of your parents have to apologize for the way you were treated.
If they complain to you by the way you treat your spouse or how to behave, ask them to please do not. You better know your spouse's faults and do not need other people to do your marriage worse with his comments. Always be ready to discuss positive things about your spouse. Do not fall into the trap of complaining to your parents about your spouse!
If you take these steps, you will help your parents behave as comprehensive laws, wise and friendly.
On the other hand, if your in-laws will cause difficulties, talk to your spouse about it. Do not fret or accuse him. Just open your heart and ask your help in solving the situation.
In all this, show yourself an example to the opposition and lack of understanding of your in-laws. Lean on Christ in his Word and prayer. The book of Proverbs contains great tips about the tongue, lips and mouth:
"The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom"
(10.31).
"The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked is perverse" (10.32).
"... The tongue of the wise brings healing" (12.18).
"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (15.1).
"A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit" (15.4).
"... The Lord is the answer of the tongue" (16.1).
"He who guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles" (21.23).
"... The gentle tongue can break bones" (25.15).
Christ instructs us to return good for evil and pray for those who mistreat us (Matthew 5.43-46; compare these verses to Matthew 5.39, Romans 12.14,17-21, 1 Thessalonians 5.15, 1 Peter 3:9, Proverbs 20.22 .)
Priorities Different
A priority is something that is very important and comes before other things. The priorities give direction and meaning to our lives. Perhaps there are so many priorities as there are people, the fact is they are very different. Here are just a few persons of which exist today:
money ; food social progress
God's family ; spouse
policy
religion drink
Friends 
health
sex ;
ambition
bride
work ;
church
satisfaction
groom
the deck sport
During life, each individual develops their own priorities. Each person lives his life and makes decisions according to these priorities. That is fine and normal. But it can cause problems when two people live together with different priorities ... as in most marriages.
Imagine the conflict that can develop between spouses if he believes that an orange is more important than a rose and she thinks otherwise. What kills the tree or put in that place beside the house? And what problems they face if they want to buy a larger tub and he insists on a new baseball glove! How to spend the bonus?
When there is a lack of maturity in one or both spouses, even small problems like these are difficult to resolve correctly. In truth, this type of conflict is no big deal and easily solved. The orange is useful as produces something edible Rose pleases the eyes and the nose. Each spouse consider these things in an objective, adds a big dose of love and determined to please the other. Or on the other hand, may decide to plant an orange tree and a rosebush. Now the problem of the tub and glove. Sit down together to determine what else they need more. You may or tub and glove necessary; for sure the tub is more useful than the glove. It might be better to save the bonus. But you should not do is stoop to attack and belittle the person, the interests and priorities of the other.
But what should you do when your priorities do not match those of your spouse in critical areas of life? What should you do when your spouse gives more importance to their parents than you? What should you do when your spouse gives more importance to their work to the church? What should you do when your spouse gives more importance to their children to church? What should you do when your spouse gives more importance to the football game that reading the Bible? What should you do when your spouse thinks it's more important to tithe to buy a new hose? What should you do when your spouse thinks it's more important not to buy new shoes on credit? It would be nice if ustedes dos tomaran tiempo para marcar sus prioridades en orden de importancia.
DIOS
DIEZMO CONYUGE DEPORTE
TRABAJO FOOD
IGLESIA ;
SEX
HIJOS
MATERIAL NEEDS ANY PARENT DEBT
;
NEIGHBOURS RELATIVES
SHELTER ; Y
prayer Bible reading
Meat
Rosal Frijoles
Naranjo
soda VEGETABLE
CAFE ;
WATER BED GLIDER CHAIR
POTATO SOAP PRIVATE
VEGETABLES SWEET
Regadas
Sheets
electricity ;
DRINKING WATER Heater
BICYCLE
BOOKS CASSETTES
HEALTH CARE
I doubt that their lists match. I recognize that any of these lists has an order that is always right for any individual or partner at any time under any circumstances. Some priorities change. But the mere fact that you are making an effort
together to make these decisions will help them a lot and improve communication each other.
So what should you do when your priorities are different from those of your spouse in critical areas of life? Look for the point of view of God as recorded in the Bible. They must also learn to find alternatives and negotiate with each other in peace and with respect.
Suppose you disagree about the work and faithful attendance at church services. Nothing would serve argue, condemn and fight back. Of no use to believe a better and more spiritual than the other. Nothing would serve to ignore the problem. Serves them nothing to complain about the situation and the other in public. What then, will have to do to solve the problem?
First, prayer is of very high. Ask enlightenment and understanding that only God can give. Second, learn what the Bible says on the subject. Third, do not hesitate to affirm the dedication and love they have for each other. And fourth, they learn to ask questions about the differences they have. For example ...
Why do you think you should be working instead of going to worship?
"lose your job if you go to worship?
"No one can take your turn when there are cults?
Can you reduce our costs so that it can accompany you to the services?
Why do you think I should go to worship instead of working?
When is it permissible to go to work instead of some cult?
Why are you concerned that I go to work instead of church?
Each spouse must be willing to modify or change its priorities case finds that such changes are necessary.
Money
We have already established something in this issue by looking at other problem areas in marriage. In the United States, over 50% of divorces are due to financial disagreements. Maybe not such the case in your country or your own region of your country, but certainly enough money causes problems for any married couple. Make a list of some common problems related to money. You add other things that have caused problems in this area.
"We should not tithe if not we will have enough money!"
"It's bad to buy on credit."
"No more you drop some money and now you want to spend!"
"We will give children money to spend as you wish?"
"How you spend on toys for kids!"
"So little money you have and buying soda!"
"The hat that I can serve you another two months."
"Make tortillas, not buy."
I assure you that the right time to resolve these disagreements are not merely when they are in their midst. It is quite possible that now is good time to schmooze together on this issue. Do not lower yourself to exchanging accusations. Discuss the list above and to make decisions. This time the dialogue is so that together determine what "economic rules" have at home. (If you are still single, determined to make these rules with your boyfriend or girlfriend before marriage.) Here I give you a few ideas.
Commitment To Tithing.
Tithing is a step of obedience. The Bible says, "To the Lord belong the earth and its fullness, the world, and those who dwell therein"
(Psalm 24.1). Everything belongs to God. The tithe (10% of revenues) is the special part that helps us remember that every possession of the Christian belongs to God (Proverbs 3.9; Malachi 3.8; 1 Corinthians 16.2). Tithing also shows faith. Many times we can not see how we have enough money if we tithe first, before any other expenses. Faith in God says that if he obeyed, he will provide for our needs (Psalm 37.18-29,25, 34.10, Matthew 6.25-34, Philippians 4.19, Hebrews 13.5).
Economic Freedom.
The Bible says he who buys on credit falls under bondage (Proverbs 22.7). In a sense, the individual loses his freedom because it has a debt that forces another person (Proverbs 22.25-26). Not only that, buying on credit costs more to buy in cash. I know from experience that there are times when it is almost inevitable to buy something on credit. In such cases we must look well what we buy to make sure that is something we really need and not something that just seems to us at the time. We must also consider whether it might not be something for which we can expect once more while saving our money to buy in cash. "Ah," say, "but I have never enough money to buy cash. Never! Best I buy on credit and paid it little by little." Let me ask you a question - Where do you get the money to pay the conductor when it comes to the payment to your account? Somehow you pay, right? Maybe you refuse something else, but you will pay the required amount. Or does not it? Okay, so instead of buying on credit, start saving your fertilizer biweekly until you have enough funds to purchase the item in cash. Consider this example of what I say:
need a bike to work. Al told me $ 130, but I have that amount of money available to buy a bike. If I buy on credit, give me $ 150 with a commitment to pay $ 30 every two weeks. What shall I do? Thirty dollars every two weeks recently and I was easy ... and what are five fortnights? But $ 20 out badly. If I find it friendly and low-paid $ 30 every two weeks for five pay periods, then save that much every two weeks should be equally short and easy! So every fortnight appliance $ 30 and after two or three months I will buy the bike for cash, spare me $ 20 and I have no commitment or obligation to anyone. savings advantage. Is lack of faith to save money? Some seem to think that if God gives them extra money to spend gives it soon. They say they have faith in God who do not care about managing your money wisely - just spend it engaged in what seems good or desirable at the time. Remember the biblical story of Pharaoh's dreams and the interpretation of God that gave Joseph (Genesis 41)? Learn the lesson of the story: if we know that hard times come, we must do everything possible to warn in time abundance. How about the next practice? Patricio
usually earn 12.000 dollars per day. But every summer have the opportunity to work in the harvest of fruit for export. In those two months, earn an average of 35.000 pesos per day. This means that your income for those two months may reach 1,400,000 pesos instead of 480.000 pesos than normal. Do you realize? 920.000 This brother earns extra bucks! What a rich blessing of God!
But Patrick has a problem. Do not manage your money wisely. He forgets that in three months is the season when no work for two or three months. As has so much money, he begins to spend it as if it never end. If you get angry so much work, not go to work for two or three days. At least you know, you are only 150,000 pesos! I'm not saying that all expenses are foolish and unnecessary, but say that does not stop to consider the bad times to come.
Let accounts. In good weather crop earns about 175.000 dollars a week instead of 60.000 that is normal. If you subtract 75.000 and saves them for bad season next week will be 100.000 for the present time. Did not we know this tactic?
Disagreements Fixed bad
Every marriage, even good and great it is, will have their disagreements. That's not a big tragedy. The tragedy occurs when the disagreements are not solved or when troubleshooting wrong. Disagreements can be small and insignificant (flour tortillas or corn tortillas) and can be large and difficult (how and when to discipline children.) How, then, it will have to settle disagreements?
With Words. Too
individuals do not have the maturity to do this. If something upsets them or if the spouse does not want to tortillas or disciplining children in their own way, they are angry or felt ... and speechless. Silent - a cold silence, tense and adversarial. It requires some maturity to talk to someone about something that divides us. But I know no other way to resolve disputes in a proper way.
With love.
Love always finds the good of the other person. Love is not selfish, does not seek its own. Love considers the feelings and interests of another individual. Love is not rude. Love does not envy. Love is patient, willing to sacrifice for the beloved (even something as small as the kind of tortillas!). Love knows apologize and can say, "You're right. I was wrong to discipline Eduardo when he was so angry." Love controls the attitudes and views. Love handles words that do not hurt or insulted. Love is not provoked, thinks no evil.
In Peace. must never attack the person's spouse ("You do not know what you mean. You are very stupid. Do not know how to do things. You have no idea how to raise children well."). We should not try to solve problems when we are in a distraught emotional state or out of control. We should not stoop to the charges. The calm, quiet and personal control contribute greatly to understanding communication.
objectively. Being goals means having the ability to consider an issue from multiple viewpoints. Few have this gift. Most of us have the ability to see any issue from one point of view - ours, that we should (flour tortillas have better flavor and nutritional value). If we continue like this, our lives and our marriages lose their balance. The counterweight of a different opinion is of high value. But if you really yearn to possess, to ascertain the views of God.
Differences. Settings. Problems. Or destroy the marriage or enrich. In your life you've seen many broken marriages and destroyed because of these things. What will your own marriage? If God wanted, he could prevent you from having to deal with differences, adjustments and problems. But God wants to enrich their marriage and individually. He knows that all these challenges are part of the route to happiness, satisfaction, development and moral wealth. When a couple can face the things that could separate them, and solve, the couple discover an intimacy and a drive that can not find any other way. Do not run away from their differences, settings, their problems and soluciónenlos face it!
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MARRIAGE INFIDELITY SPOTTED by hidden or open, by indifference to the basic needs of the spouse, by the violence of words or actions, by resentment and everything that affects the mutual rapport between the couple ...
not about patching the stain ...
is not taking refuge in the arms of another person who is not for ...
God does not want 
